Today is Not a Good Day

Truly..today is not a good day for me..need a warm hug now

She's Just Not That Into You

See No Evil: The most essential aspect of human interaction is eye contact. The eyes often hold many mysteries, and a glimpse into one's psyche, some would even say a glimpse into the soul. A loss or decline in this ocular exchange can occur at any stage in the dating game, but regardless of when it happens it's usually evidence of at least one of a few possible things. A woman who refuses or ceases to lock eyes with you is clearly hiding or avoiding something. It's quite possible that a long gaze could signal a sincere interest, and since she's not interested she avoids starring into your eyes to avoid being misleading. Or she could be refusing eye contact simply because something or someone else has her attention. A woman who is interested in you jumps at a chance to be captured in your gaze. She wants to feel adored and to know that you are focused on her.

Hear No Evil: Chances are you may have progressed beyond the initial courting stages; you've probably gone out a few times. Now suddenly your attempts to arrange outings are always meet with opposition, when the dates are left open with no definitive answer as to whether or not they will actually occur. Then again you could've made it through the planning and arranging stage, but somehow just before the date is to take place something just happens to come up. Now, don't get me wrong, we are all entitled to change a date or cancel here and there, things happen. But, if this is a constant reoccurrence, then maybe, just maybe "she's just not that into you."

Speak No Evil: Fellas, if you've ever been in this situation or meet this woman, believe me you'll know it. This woman's conversation is "off the damn chain", oh she works the mouthpiece, and will have yo' ass drifting off into never-never land, just imaging what other ways she can work it. The general conversation is on point, but just so happen you spark up a serious conversation about the two of you. You will think you just walked into a legal proceeding, and I advise you to have your lawyers on deck. Because while speaking to her, she'll answer, but you'll think you're simply holding a conversation with her representative. Answers that typically garner an easy and definitive response, will possibly only earn you a sketchy, "let me get back to you." If you manage to get more of a response than this, please believe it will be vague, ambiguous, and a clear sign that she's not interested.

Call Waiting: So you have been diligent in your pursuit, as well you should have, you're the hunter and you're on the prowl. However, if your advances have been in the form of unanswered or unreturned calls, this would be the appropriate time for you to spin the wheel, buy a vowel, and solve the damn puzzle. Now keep in mind that generally speaking you will probably be the one making the most phone calls, but if she never calls, or the only time she calls is in response to one of your several missed calls, you clearly aren't important to her. You haven't been on her mind, and she has been avoiding you because she's not interested.

Busy signal: Okay, so your advances have been met by opposition, but you are still trying. Up to this point you've taken everything that has been given at face value, and you're attempting to convince yourself that something of substance can exist between the two of you if you would just be patient. Stop lying to yourself. This overextended pursuit was over at hello. You just chose to ignore the signs. Chances are the reasons for all of the missed engagements, phone calls, and lackluster interaction is being blamed on how busy her life is. We are all busy, everyone is hustling and grinding to make a better life, but when we find someone that interests us, we make room for them in our busy lives. Don't assume she is lying when she says she so busy. She probably is extremely busy with all of the things that matter in her life, which doesn't include you.

The MapQuest Speech: Go ahead break out the Lenny Williams, Jodeci, Anthony Hamilton, or whoever your favorite "sob" artist is and you might as well fix yourself a stiff drink because this one might hurt a bit. When this speech is levied, you'll feel as though you just got beamed with the proverbial 90 mph love ball. This is the who's who of kick rocks speeches. She might as well had pulled Soulja Boy out her pocket just for him to say "yah trick yah." You'll feel as though you are searching for Waldo when she postures about how she's "searching for herself", and using statements like "I'm trying to find me."

Believe me, I understand we all go through life altering experiences at different stages in life, but anyone who values you and has a sincere interest in you won't lay this load of crap at your feet. If you receive this "one hitter quitter", it was a 90 mph love ball, and at this point you might as well pick what self esteem and respect you have left up and quietly walk off the field. My friend...the game is over.

Fellas, if you find yourselves in a situation that remotely resembles any of the signs, use your best judgment to discern whether you should move on or continue with your pursuit. If the instances are rare, she might just be worth the wait, but if she's a habitual offender, she clearly does not hold you in high esteem. In her eyes you are probably just an option as opposed to being a preference. I would encourage you to have just a lil' self-respect and refuse to be any woman's "plan B". This game may have ended, but in the burning metropolis, the female to male ratio is about 6 to 1, so suit up once more and realize that there is still grass on field.

WHY EMPLOYEES LEAVE ORGANISATIONS?

Every company normally faces one common problem of high employee turnout atio. People are leaving the company for better pay, better profile or simply for just one reason' pak gaya '. This article might just throw some light on the matter......


Early this year, Arun, an old friend who is a senior software designer, got an offer from a prestigious international firm to work in its India operations developing specialized software. He was thrilled by the offer. He had heard a lot about the CEO of this company, charismatic man often quoted in the business press for his visionary attitude. The salary was great. The company had all the right systems in place employee-friendly human resources (HR) policies, a spanking new office, and the very best technology, even a canteen that served superb food. Twice Arun was sent abroad for training. "My learning curve is the sharpest it's ever been," he said soon after he joined. "It's a real high working with such cutting edge technology." Last week, less than eight months after he joined, Arun walked out of the job. He has no other offer in hand but he said he couldn't take it anymore. Nor, apparently, could several other people in his department who have also quit recently.


The CEO is distressed about the high employee turnover. He's distressed about the money he's spent in training them. He's distressed because he can't figure out what happened. Why did this talented employee leave despite a top salary? Arun quit for the same reason that drives many good people away. The answer lies in one of the largest studies undertaken by the Gallup Organization. The study surveyed over a million employees and 80,000 managers and was published in a book called First Break All The Rules.

It came up with this surprising finding:

If you're losing good people, look to their immediate supervisor. More than any other single reason, he is the reason people stay and thrive in an organization. And he's the reason why they quit, taking their knowledge, experience and contacts with them. Often, straight to the competition. "People leave managers not companies," write the authors Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman. "So much money has been thrown at the challenge of keeping good people - in the form of better pay, better perks and better training - when, in the end, turnover is mostly manager issue." If you have a turnover problem, look first to your managers. Are they driving people away? Beyond a point, an employee's primary need has less to do with money, and more to do with how he's treated and how valued he feels. Much of this depends directly on the immediate manager. And yet, bad bosses seem to happen to good people everywhere.. A Fortune magazine survey some years ago found that nearly 75 per cent of employees have suffered at the hands of difficult superiors. You can leave one job to find - you guessed it, another wolf in a pin-stripe suit in the next one. Of all the workplace stressors, a bad boss is possibly the worst, directly impacting the emotional health and productivity of employees. HR experts say that of all the abuses, employees find public humiliation the most intolerable. The first time, an employee may not leave, but a thought has been planted.. The second time, that thought gets strengthened. The third time, he starts looking for another job. When people cannot retort openly in anger, they do so by passive aggression. By digging their heels in and slowing down. By doing only what they are told to do and no more. By omitting to give the boss crucial information.

Dev says: "If you work for a jerk, you basically want to get him into trouble. You don't have your heart and soul in the job." Different managers can stress out employees in different ways - by being too controlling, too suspicious, too pushy, too critical, but they forget that workers are not fixed assets, they are free agents. When this goes on too long, an employee will quit - often over seemingly trivial issue. It isn't the 100th blow that knocks a good man down. It's the 99 that went before. And while it's true that people leave jobs for all kinds of reasons- for better opportunities or for circumstantial reasons, many who leave would have stayed - had it not been for one man constantly telling them, as Arun's boss did: "You are dispensable. I can find dozens like you." While it seems like there are plenty of other fish especially in today's waters, consider for a moment the cost of losing a talented employee.There's the cost of finding a replacement. The cost of training the replacement. The cost of not having someone to do the job in the meantime. The loss of clients and contacts the person had with the industry. The loss of morale in co-workers. The loss of trade secrets this person may now share with others. Plus, of course, the loss of the company's reputation. Every person who leaves a corporation then becomes its ambassador, for better or for worse. We all know of large IT companies that people would love to join and large television companies few want to go near. In both cases, former employees have left to tell their tales.


"Any company trying to compete must figure out a way to engage the mind of every employee," Jack Welch of GE once said. Much of a company's value lies "between the ears of its employees". If it's bleeding talent, it's bleeding value. Unfortunately, many senior executives busy travelling the world, signing new deals and developing a vision for the company, have little idea of what may be going on at home.That deep within an organization that otherwise does all the right things, one man could be driving its best people away.

unrequited love

I've heard many a tales of unrequited love. in fact i'm sure at some point in our life time we would have faced something similar. or maybe even worse. but to know that ur not loved back is in a way a good thing. at least u know. as hurt as u may be, at least u know. what of those who never got to know? i mean those who just admire from afar. keeping everything inside them. not wanting to try, to find out even if there's any chance. what of those?to me, love is something that should never be restrained, bound or gagged. love should be left free, love is timeless, endless and boundless. love is. yes. love is. hehe. if u love someone just tell them u love them. seriously? hmm well yes. u shud just express ur feelings. hehe things will work themselves out in the end. example. say u fancy someone . and this feeling is so strong that its bursting from the seams. u can't hide it anymore. well don't. just don't hide it. u shud be able to declare ur love openly without any fear or fervor. really? yeah. things will sort themselves out. hehe if by any chance ur affection is unreturned, then the most u would face would just be a right ol slap and tickle. if someone is in a very healthy relationship, they would probably not be disturbed even the least bit. but if somehow or rather ur declaration has managed to sway them even the smallest bit, hehe then my friend ur in with a chance.........

I'll Always Remember

I'll always remember... I'll never forget, how you took my breath away, the first time we met. No matter what happens... no matter what we do, I'll always remember the first time I saw you.

L i f e

Life is about trusting your feelings and taking chances, losing and finding happiness, appreciating the memories, learning from the past, and realizing people change

No String Attached

Emma: I can't stop thinking about him.
Katie: Who? Adam?
Emma: Yeah. I know it's over and I'm looking. It's just that no one is as.
Katie: [interrupts] Tall?
Emma: He's so tall.
Katie: So tall.
Emma: And he's so, like.
Katie: Happy?
Emma: Annoyingly happy, all the time. But he has this.
[pauses]
Emma: He has the best heart.



Adam: [Calling Emma] You can't just suddenly call me and say you miss me!
Emma: I know...
Adam: No, do not call me to say you miss me. Do not text me, do not e-mail me... do not write it on my wall! If you really miss me, come here and tell me that!


Alvin: We don't get to pick who we fall in love with, and it doesn't happen like it should.

"Adam: I am so glad you are my friend."

Will I Am

Will.I.Am
May 27th, 2008 by Chelly Tanu
Long time no update from me, yeah thats for sure.

Gw sekarang lagi jenuh banget.. pingin ngerubah idup dalam skala gede2an. Kayaknya pengen belajar bahasa asing, trus pindah to a place thats like another world to me. Jenuh.

Temen2 gw pada merit, ada yg udah hamil, dan mereka tu merit ada yg karena udah mau hambar sama lakinya jadi cepet merit aja deh, ada yg drpd dingomongin orang lah, atau emang yaa.. itu kan next phase in life… Tapi ada juga yg merit karena cinta dan memang mereka ingin terus bareng for the rest of their lives. Ini nih yg gw mau.

Co gw ngajak tunangan and gw ga jawab, gw bilang buat apa kalo lo cuma takut gw ngilang. Tapi yg gw gak bisa bilang sama dia ialah gw udah jenuh. Gw nggak nyangka kalo cinta itu bisa abis kayak bensin.. dan gw ga realize until its too late, and by God I swear I’ve tried to assure myself but it didnt work. Sekitar last month he told me udah lama nggak ngeliat gw punya foto. Ya udah gw kirim and dia kirim balik punyanya (gw kagak minta pula), pas gw buka perasaan gw cuma “yah emang begitu kan mukanya dari dulu juga”. DOH! gw baru ngeh, ternyata.. cinta.. gw.. habis.

Mungkin kelamaan pisah, secara gw long distant udah lama. He is a good guy and bisa ngasih gw stability, cakep juga, tapi.. gw ga mau merit karena ya udah deh.. Gw pingin in love, gw pingin passion. Gw ingin..

G jg binun gimana ngomongnya ama dia secara gw pernah putusin dia untuk alasan yg mirip, ternyata begitu putus baru gw realize gw cinta sampe sengsara ampir setaun ga bisa lupain dia, begitu gw rela malah dia minta balik! Sedangkan cinta itu kan nggak bisa dibalikin kyk telapak tangan. Dan sejak awal taun ini gw udah coba, kadang gw percaya, kadang nggak, dan sekarang gw yakin.. emang udah abis. Makanya ni blog pake bahasa.. gw ga tau gimana bilangnya.

Gwkenapa ya? temen2 gw bilang gw kebanyakan maunya. Tapi nggak juga ah, nggak mesti ganteng abis kaya abis atau baek abis perfect mampus gitu. All i need and want is just love, dan gw tau kok ada yg masih passionate abis merit for some time.

Itu lah orang Asia, selalu diajarin yg penting nyari co yg baek, bisa ngasih jaminan, bla bla bla. Nggak ada kan yg ngajarin cari the one you love or the right one. Cuma bule yg ngomong gt, malah temen gw yg laen bilang gw kelewat Western minded, klewat banyak dengerin bule. Jadi r u sayin its impossible!?!

So ya, gw pengen cari cinta, usaha buat cinta, dan happy karenanya. Gw siap buat ngerubah idup gw. Bukannya cepet2 pengen merit sih tapi gw uda 23-24 dan gw mau nyari dulu lah yg gw bener2 cinta mampus, i dont wanna waste time gitu.

Kalo nggak pernah nyoba, jangan komplain, gitu kan. And i’m not gonna give up, i’m gonna fight. Doain deh.

Destiny

Dalam film "my sassy girl" versi barat, di bagian ending-nya disebutkan :Destiny... all I know is that even when destiny really wants to accomplish something, it can't do it alone. You still have to show up. You still have to build a bridge... to the one you love.

Yup, I m totally agree with that explanation, Destiny atau Takdir tidak akan pernah terjadi bila tidak ada usaha yang dilakukan untuk meraihnya, karena Destiny atau takdir tidak akan menemukan jalannya sendiri, dengan kata lain : its still need effort

Contohnya, bila dalam satu waktu kita merasa menemukan orang yang pas buat kita, dan kita ingin lebih dekat dengan nya,apakah "dekat" dengan nya akan pernah terjadi bila kita tidak ada effort? I don't think so. Tidak akan terjadi apapun bila salah satu, atau dua-nya tidak melakukan movement apapun, it will lose the moment.

Atau bila sudah dalam suatu hubungan tidak akan berjalan dengan lancar bila tidak ada komunikasi dan saling keterbukaan yang di bangun (build)

Kata-kata "build" tentunya mempunya arti "usaha dan waktu", yeaap bener banget kalo "rome wasn't build in day", tetap butuh waktu,usaha dan pengorbanan.Tidak tergantung seberapa cepat dan lama nya sebuah hubungan di bangun, just make sure kalo hubungan itu memiliki pondasi yang kuat

The Last but not least, if you felt that you have same "sparkle", please open up your heart, if you did it, time will follow you, Take a risk, and God will always be with us


Cheers guys !!

From abe (yang sebenernya males masuk kantor hari ini, karena mata nya masih pengen tertutup dan membayangkan liburan 7 hari di phi phi island :) )

Menunggu Bis

Sebuah bis datang, dan kau bilang, "Wah...terlalu sumpek dan panas, nggak bisa duduk nyaman nih! aku tunggu bis berikutnya saja"

Kemudian, bis berikutnya datang. Kamu melihatnya dan berkata, "Aduh bisnya kurang asik nih dan kok gak cakep begini... nggak mau ah.."

Bis selanjutnya datang, cool dan kau berminat, tapi dia seakan-akan tidak melihatmu dan melewatimu begitu saja.

Bis keempat berhenti di depan kamu. Bis itu kosong, cukup bagus, tapi kamu bilang, "Nggak ada AC nih, gua bisa kepanasan". Maka kamu membiarkan bis keempat pergi..

Waktu terus berlalu, kamu mulai sadar bahwa kamu bisa terlambat pergi ke kantor. Ketika bis kelima datang, kau sudah tak sabar, kamu langsung melompat masuk ke dalamnya. Setelah beberapa lama, kamu akhirnya sadar kalau kamu salah menaiki bis. Bis tersebut jurusannya bukan yang kau tuju!

Dan kau baru sadar telah menyiakan waktumu sekian lama..

Moral dari cerita ini, sering kali seseorang menunggu orang yang benar-benar 'ideal' untuk menjadi pasangan hidupnya. Padahal tidak ada orang yang 100% memenuhi keidealan kita. Dan kau pun sekali-kali tidak akan pernah bisa menjadi 100% sesuai keinginan dia.

Tidak ada salahnya memiliki persyaratan untuk 'calon', tapi tidak ada salahnya juga memberi kesempatan kepada yang berhenti di depan kita. Tentunya dengan jurusan yang sama seperti yang kita tuju. Apabila ternyata memang tidak cocok, apa boleh buat.. tapi kau masih bisa berteriak 'Kiri !' dan keluar dengan sopan.

Maka memberi kesempatan pada yang berhenti di depanmu, semuanya bergantung pada keputusanmu. Daripada kita harus jalan kaki sendiri menuju kantormu, dalam arti menjalani hidup ini tanpa kehadiran orang yang dikasihi.

Cerita ini juga berarti, kalau kau benar-benar menemukan bis yang kosong, kau sukai dan bisa kau percayai, dan tentunya sejurusan dengan tujuanmu, kau dapat berusaha sebisamu untuk menghentikan bis tersebut di depanmu. Untuk dia memberi kesempatan kau masuk ke dalamnya. Karena menemukan yang seperti itu adalah suatu berkah yang sangat berharga dan sangat berarti. Bagimu sendiri, dan bagi dia.

Bis seperti apa yang kau tunggu?

AKU PERCAYA TUHAN AKAN MENYELAMATKANKU

Seorang imam duduk di depan meja dekat jendela menyiapkan khotbah tentang Penyelenggaran Tuhan, ketika ia mendengar suara seperti ledakan. Segera ia melihat orang-orang lalu-lalang, berlari-lari dalam kepanikan, dan mengetahui kalau bendungan telah meledak, sungai meluap dan rakyat sedang diungsikan.

Ia melihat kalau air kian meninggi di jalanan. Walaupun ia merasa kesulitan untuk menekan kepanikannya yang mencengkramnya, ia tetap
berkata: "Disini aku sedang menyiapkan khotbah tentang Penyelengaraan Tuhan, dan aku dapat kesempatan untuk mempraktekkan khotbahku. Aku tidak akan lari seperti yang lainnya. Aku akan tetap tinggal disini dan percaya akan penyelengaraan ilahi yang akan menyelamatkanku."

Ketika air sudah setinggi jendela, perahu penuh orang lewat di depan jendelanya. "Naiklah pastor," teriak mereka.

"Ah tidak nak," kata pastor penuh percaya diri. "Aku percaya Penyelenggaraan Tuhan akan menyelamatkanku."

Pastor konsisten dengan kepercayaannya itu. Ia naik ke atap.
Ketika air telah setinggi atap, sejumlah orang dalam perahu yang lewat mendesak pastor untuk naik. Dan sekali lagi, dengan yakinnya, ia menolak.

Kali ini ia naik lagi ke puncak lonceng gereja. Ketika air terus saja naik hingga sebatas lututnya, seorang petugas dengan perahu motor dikirim untuk menyelamatkannya.

"Terimakasih Saudaraku....." katanya dengan senyum tenang. "Aku percaya kepada penyelamatan Tuhan. Ia tidak akan meninggalkanku."

Demikianlah, hingga pastor tenggelam. Ketika ia naik ke sorga, yang pertama-tama ia lakukan adalah menyampaikan protesnya kepada Tuhan. "Aku percaya kepada-Mu ya Tuhan. Tapi mengapa Engkau tidak berbuat apa-apa untuk menyelamatkanku."

"Ah ....", seru Tuhan, "Bukankah Aku telah mengirimimu perahu sampai tiga kali?"

~ Anthony de Mello; SJ.